Love: An Act of Will, Not An Act of Heart

Each one of us has a different definition or interpretation of love. Love can be defined as a deep devotion of affection for another person. It can be a strong sexual passion for another person or a sexual passion in general or even, the gratification of it. Love could also be blind, patient or kind, depending on the person feeling it. Or maybe, like is like a river that flows forever. The definition of love is really up to the person feeling it.

We all want to love and be loved. That is the sweetest thing that happens to a person. But it is hard to achieve. People are so proud that they do not want to express for the person may not love them in return. It is hard to achieve love because as you go deeper in the true meaning of love, you may realize that it is not love you are feeling at after all. Love is selfless, sure and sincere. In true love, you cannot find the words selfish, unsure, insincere and insecure. Once you love a person you do everything for him or her to be happy. You love not to satisfy your desires, but to satisfy the desires of the other person. It is not all about “I” anymore like before. You have to love the “you”. And that is how the phrase I Love You came to be.

But is love an act of will and not of heart? I have read on the Reader’s Digest that love lasts for 12 to 18 months and after that, you choose to love continually the person, or you choose to leave. It stated that it is really in the brain that controls your desire for that person and after 12 to 18 months, tat desire may fade away and it is already up to you if you will love that person continually. I do not know if I have to believe this but it showed that love is an act of ill as what I have agreed.

Science has not yet discovered the center or the organ which our feelings emanate from. We believe that the organ that contains it is the heart. Some say the brain. Native Africans believe that it is the liver that controls our feelings while others say our limbic system. Wherever the feelings come from, it is an act of will and not the organ containing it. Our willingness to do it or express it is the one that really matters. It is not only the brain, live, heart or the limbic system that is affected by these feelings. Our min, body and soul are also affected. We love because we want to love. No one or nothing forces us to do such act. It is our own choice that we will do everything for it. It does not matter that the brain cells of the brain give up in loving someone. It is our own choice. If we love the person continually, our whole person operates in doing that. It is only up to us if we love or not. But to tell you, I think that there is no single person that does not love after all. If there is, he or she may be a victim of a short span of life.

It is nice to choose to love everyday, every minute and every second. Love God, love yourself and love your family. Love your friends and love your pets. Love everything!